Dear ABC,
Hope you have heard my name SHAKTHI from
your Senthil. Am really sorry first for writing this mail, sure as a third
person, i cannot interfere i know. My relationship is less
experienced with him and i became lifetime close to him not only for a beer but
for his kindness heart and lovable affection.And so, ofcourse his
LOVE is also close to my heart and so excuse me pls and accept this mail.
First of all, sure this is not a advise mail and
torture mail, so pls dont ignore it. I know, You have lovely ears to hear a
third person talking abt your love as it is something
special. Unfortunately i had to heard about your recent misunderstandings
and I was very sure on how it was happened with you. I can understand
definitely your privacy was disturbed and your disturbed mind wanted some rest.
You and your age was young when you two
started your love and so your love was also young. Since it was young, it has
got affectionate and relaxed relation which we will see it as always enjoyable
and entertaining. It is first and fresh love came from heart and brain and it
cant be replaced by any kind of later or past relation. But when you and your
age grows, your love also grows and becoming aged. Ofcourse it becomes matured
and its freshness goes down. Its not like, your love and affection decreases,
but your commitment with life increases and you have less time to spend on your
love. This gap, please don’t think and relate it to your love and it is
definitely coz you are growing good. Also don’t use this gap to disturb your
mind from your love.
Till 20 we are in parents hands and we
don’t have any idea about life. 20-25 you can think of your life and if you get
a love, you can njoy this period happily. Later after 25 you will be forced to
think of marriage. Your love is in third stage and its in Marriage stage. If
you are in with parents for 25 years, you are going to be with your partner for
remaining life (More than 25 years). So life with our partner and kids are more
and any relation having physical presence will change our life. Do not get
confused with just misunderstandings and do not think these misunderstandings
will make you to lose your happiness. Sure, we are having misunderstandings
with our own parents or siblings, but we don’t think to stay away from them.
Just like, once we loved, we should not think of breaking it simply coz of
misunderstandings alone.
I hardly spend a 5 mins of chat in a day with
Senthil and some day even i wont. But with my experience itself, i see him as a
close friend means, what can i talk about your experience of love with him. I
really see you both in Marriage stage after crossing your love stage. I was
really thinking like, he is just kidding when he said your love has got some
disturbance.
Later when he tried to explain the reasons, really there were
no reasons at all to say. But i understand clearly from your side, it is
because of his expectations to have you as like earlier he was having you. But
when your ambience changes, people around you are changing and your office
commitment is changing. Sure he should have to understand the situation and
relaxed you later.
But he expected you to be like same as with previous
environment. When your timings and his timings were not in the same line, this
expectation was later causing regrets and misunderstandings. Basically, you
know most of the relation are getting hurt because of failure in expectations.
Some will understand it and ignore it simply and proceed casually.But some will get disturbed and hurt deeply when this expectation fails.
Just think these kind of mistakes as just a human mistakes from his side and
you can easily come out of your confusions.
Not only me and all of his friends and most of his
relatives know about your valuable love and all are really eager to see your
marriage. Now you are being forced and approached to decide on your marriage I
know. You are on your own now but just postponed your decision. When a relation
comes to us on a depressed circumstances will not be with us for a long time.Just im requesting you to relax with your old close friends and think of
your marriage after some atleast 3 months. If you already showed any progress
on your marriage, donot hesitate please to hold it. Just think as you are sick
now and you need sometime to get cured.
Simply when there are no big reasons to think, you
don’t give up your love and your life will be most enjoyable with all kind of
expectations fulfilled and happiness.I meant your love as
both of your love and its for him also. I advised him too a lot as to treat you
as special girl anytime and to give respect to your wishes and thots too.It can be parents and with you and him, anyway all are individuals having
diff heart and diff thots. So even if it is lovers, we should also think on her
njoyment in life.
I controlled and still i put few advises, im sorry but
all these i said because, i lost my closest heart in the same situation before
and she is no more in my life and i feel crying all the days for the last few
years. I dint try above to support his side, just i felt very sad to see your
good valuable relation has some problem and i wanted to help my friends both of
you.
Above all our tries and centiments, he didnt listen to
us and he cannot come out of your heart and so he walked out back to his native
or somewhere we donno. We all are sad to lose him as he is not at all talking
to us good. I traced your mail id and writing this. Requesting you my sister to
call him back and bring him back to his real life with you and also help him on
his career too.
Thanks for reading this mail and you can call me to
9940455467 to scold me if you feel to.
Your love never ends till we die.
